i have no clue what most women want in a man. i can't speak for anyone but myself, and it's dawned on me that i'm hardly representative of the gender. but people keep asking "what do women look for in men?" here's one answer.
the biggest killer for me is guys who just aren't interesting. either they're totally wrapped up in "why aren't i getting laid?" or their jobs or some little tiny aspect of their lives, or they just aren't good at expressing what' on their mind in ways that appeal to me.
i like men who are interested in lots of things, who are intelligent and funny and sexually adventurous and who understand me (or at least try to). i think one of the biggest attractions is having a guy i think is totally cool think *i'm* fascinating and want to get to know me, want to crawl inside my head and watch my mind work for a while. looks are nice (i have a thing for guys with long hair), but not everything. once there were two guys i thought were utterly sexy and lusted after; one was 5'8" and weighed about 120 pounds, the other was 6'2" and weighed 250. unfortunately, i only got to date the first one.
i like men who are a little dangerous, a little unpredictable, which does not translate into wanting to be abused. i just can't take anyone seriously who won't stand up to me and tell me i'm full of shit when i'm being unreasonable. men who are confident enough in themselves and their attractiveness to me to tell me to fuck off when i need to hear it amaze me. i like it. i like a little friction, a little unsettledness in a relationship. i'm a strong personality and need someone who's not going to allow me to run him over.
this doesn't mean i'm into bullies or not interested in shy men. shy people can have a strong sense of who they are and when they're being pushed too far. and bullies are just boring after a while. i don't wanna be anyone's doormat.
this all boils down to me liking/wanting real people, men who aren't afraid to just exist as who they are without worrying about what effect that's having on me and my perception of them. men who can talk about things and listen to me talk and really care about what i'm saying.
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sine | deb
this is a personal opinion, not a personal ad.