steves@truevision.com wrote:
[some interesting stuff about divorce as a commitment to undo a previous commitment that i can't quote directly because it hasn't gotten to where i can snag it yet]
a friend gave me an interesting take on divorce the other night. i was beating myself up for having been a total failure in all my relationships to date. it went something like this:
friend: "what about your marriage?"
me: "well, i'm divorced, right?"
f: "why'd you get married in the first place?"
m: "you know that. i needed a place to heal myself and he wanted to make me all better."
f: "and why'd you get divorced?"
m: "because i was as healed as i was going to get and he was convinced he'd done it (yeah, right) and there wasn't any point to the marriage anymore."
f: "so you both got what you wanted?"
m: "well, yeah."
f: "sounds like it was a successful relationship to me, then."
some people. there you are, happily bashing away at yourself, and they have to point out that what you think is a baseball bat is a feather.
the point, i spose, is that sometimes things change and commitments have to be revised.
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sine | deb
aren't logical people annoying? sigh.